What’s The Point of Having a Heart if It Keeps Breaking?
There must have been a moment while watching a romance scene or a movie, where you must have scoffed at the character for making such a fuss after being dumped. The character is completely devastated, and all you can think of is: just move on already. What’s the big deal?
Sitting on our high horses, we look at displays of affection and care with contempt. We like the idea of being with someone, but true love? The kind of love where you are ready to make sacrifices, and drink yourself to death, and not be able to even move? That kind of love is for the storybooks.
As long as you are practical about it, your heart will never break.
Except it does. And it’s not because you fell deeply in love with someone. It came when you poured your time, energy, and effort into something or someone, and in return, ended up with nothing.
It could be for a job you worked so hard at, but were casually dismissed. The reason for that dismissal is something so trivial, like you coming late on that one day. Or sending an email with a typo. In the next instant, you are laid off. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t take any sick leaves or work on the weekends to show your loyalty.
You have been dismissed. You aren’t only mourning the lack of income now, but the blood and sweat you put into this. Your heart breaks because you trusted your employers to do right by you.
Then there’s the most common heartbreak: trusting the people close to you. It could be your best friend or a family member who you thought was your confidant.
Turns out, your best friend has been secretly jealous of you and has been spreading rumors about you, pushing you out of social events. You didn’t even realize it at first. You thought your friends were not celebrating certain occasions, only to find photos splattered all over social media, evidence of their betrayal. They wanted to have fun, but just not with you because your best friend told them not to.
Every photo contains your best friend who lied to you about being homesick and not being able to hang out with you. And all this time, they were partying with your former friends.
You can’t choose your family…but you do have that one relative with whom you bond well and have a connection. You share every bit of your life with them. They bless you, send you good wishes, and proclaim their love for you.
But when the time comes when you desperately need help, they are the first ones to back away. Their hostility is sudden and heartbreaking. You’ve already counted them as one of those people who will always be there for you, no matter what.
Turns out, they never really loved you the way you did them. The relationship was a lie. It was a matter of convenience. A show of popularity so that their friends can be impressed by how close they are to their family members.
It was all a lie.
So, you see, you don’t need to have a Romeo and Juliet romance to get your heart broken. There are enough people around you to do that for you.
What is the Point of having a heart if it only breaks? The point is to train it to listen to the brain. To make it understand that it must never love or trust wholeheartedly. And to always think logically before putting yourself out there.
After all, a broken heart is a bitter lesson that doesn’t always heal you the way you want it to. It doesn’t change you for the better.
But what it does do eventually is to remind you that the kind of love you are looking for doesn’t exist in the world around you, but can be found deep inside of you.
If you must love and trust someone blindly, it can only be given to you.
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