You begin to imagine a future with them, and how amazing your relationship is going to be and how fulfilling. Except, that relationship has only occurred in your head.
Maybe you have talked to this person, maybe you still haven’t. And just when you decide to let your feelings known, you find out this person is already in another relationship.
Or maybe that’s not the scenario either.
As days pass, you do realize your crush isn’t going to materialize into a relationship because you’re not ready to be in a relationship or you really want the other person to make the first move and they just aren’t. You’re starting to wonder if that person would ever return your feelings.
This crush you have on another person is consuming your every thought and every minute of the day and one day you finally realize you need to let go.
Here are the Top 10 Ways to Get Over a Crush
1) Find a Distraction
The minute you realize that you are spending too much time thinking about your crush and grieving a failed (sometimes imaginary) relationship, it is time to focus on something else.
Pick up your hobbies again or find a new one. Learn a new skill. Do whatever it takes to occupy your mind with productive things. Hopefully, by the end of the day you will have realized you were too busy to even think about your crush.
Do something constructive everyday and you will find that as time passes, it has become easier for you to move on from your crush.
2) Understand the reason behind your crush
Sometimes it helps to analyze and process your feelings. Before you delve into anything else, why not try to find out the origin of these feelings that cropped up.
Maybe you have been feeling lonely. Or perhaps, this person was the only one who was kind to you in a bad situation.
It helps to understand that maybe you have misconstrued gratitude for romantic feelings.
3) Realize it is just a crush and nothing else
Most often than not, you may have believed to have fallen for a person and imagined it to be true love. It’s time to reevaluate your feelings. You need to ask yourself if you truly know everything about this person to consider being in love with him.
Have you ever spoken enough words to this person to believe you are in love?
If you can’t come up with the answers, it is time to accept that fact that what you have is a small crush and it is time to move on from that.
4) Don’t push yourself to look for a new crush
You may think that if you move on with another person or even thoughts of another person, that you will get over your crush quickly.
You will not.
It will hurt to push yourself into a relationship you aren’t going into with the right set of mind. Rather than letting your relationships go sour really fast, take some time to heal from your heartbreak before getting into another relationship.
5) Pamper yourself
It’s time to heal and it is time to look after yourself. Maybe you’ve put your grooming ritual in the back burner while you were trying to heal. So now it is time to look after yourself, clean up yourself, get a makeover if you want and just do all the things that make you feel loved.
6) Do not stalk your crush online
The worst thing you can do when getting over a crush is stalking them online. Almost everyone has an online presence and maybe the person you have a crush on is active on social media. The last thing you want to see is your crush living their lives, all smiles, in a new relationship, while you are at home grieving and nursing a broken heart.
It would be better to either stay off the internet for a while or block and unfriend them from your social network if you are following them.
7) Allow yourself to be sad
It is okay to feel things. Understand that you are not made of stone and you are hurt and will need time to get over your crush. Let yourself process every emotion that comes with dealing with your crush. That is the only way to actually move on from a crush.
8) Accept your crush has negative qualities and move on
When you develop a crush on someone, all you can see is their positive side. Without even realizing it, you have put them on a pedestal and believe that they are the best partner for you.
Because you are overwhelmed with the chemicals in your brain, you may have failed to realize all the negative traits in them. If you think about it, you may remember some things that were blanketed because of your feelings for that person.
Everyone has flaws and sometimes you may accept the person with all of their flaws. But sometimes there may be some flaws you simply can’t get past.
It is time to acknowledge that they have flaws and that you couldn’t get past that.
9) Tell yourself you deserve a real and better relationship
We all deserve to be in relationships that help us grow and be with people who will love and support us. It isn’t enough to just love a person, the other person must love you back.
It is time for you to realize that you deserve a relationship in which you feel loved and respected.
Even if it takes time to find your perfect partner, it is worth the wait. You can take the time to focus on your relationships with your family, friends, and yourself, until you are ready to get back into the dating world.
10) Focus on making yourself happy
The most important person in your life has to be you. After all, you have to be there for yourself when no one else is available. So why not make yourself happy and do all the things that make you happy?
Your priority, until you have dealt with your feelings for your crush, should be about making sure you have a smile on your face everyday.
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