WHAT IS THE POINT OF SMALL TALK? Can it keep us socially safe?

 

What is the Point…of small talk?

And should it be the only way we communicate from now on?

Let’s face it, we are in a world where it is brave and acceptable to be opinionated. In fact, if you are not opinionated then you are considered a welcome mat, a person who can be essentially pushed over. If you don’t express your opinions loudly, you are way overly accomodating and not assertive in a world that can eat you up alive. 

And so, we have learned to have opinions, which is a good thing, but the negative aspect of this is that most of us have learned that our opinion is always right and the others are wrong because they think differently. 

This leads to a limitation on topics that can be discussed at an event or a social gathering. You know someone is biased against a political party, so there is no way you are bringing up politics. 

You know not to discuss cultures because you may accidentally say something to offend and be labeled a racist. 

There are many topics that can lead to argument,s which is why when you meet someone new, and want to make a good first impression, you choose the “safe” topics. 

These usually include the weather, hobbies, favorite foods, compliments, general work-related inquiries, and nothing else. It’s safe and less likely to lead to arguments. 

After all, if it has been hot, no one is going to disagree by saying that no, it’s such cool and comfortable weather. Stating facts rather than opinions leads to safer conversations and makes for better social gatherings and fun times. 

There are many who may point out that small talk is pointless that one must indulge in meaningful conversations. But in today’s social climate, maybe small talk is all that can be endured. 

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